

Working It: Marriage as a Labor of Love
In this Sunday's Gospel, Jesus tells the story of a father who asks his two sons to work in his vineyard. The first says no, then thinks better of it and goes. The second says yes, and never shows up. When Jesus asks which son did his father's will, the answer is obvious. But it's worth noticing something both sons share: neither one told the truth about himself in the moment he spoke. One made a promise he had no intention of keeping. The other refused a job he would end up
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The Comparison Trap: What Envy Does to a Marriage
Two months into a deeply unhappy time in her marriage, June quit all her social media accounts. "I can't stand looking at all those happy smiling couples out on dates, having fun vacations, and celebrating milestones while my marriage is struggling to survive," she said. "I'm almost resentful that they are doing so well when I'm sad and angry." But were all her couple friends really as happy and successful as they appeared? Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, and other social medi
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Forgiving the Whole Debt: What It Really Means to Let Go
Dan and Jillian came to see Dawna eighteen months after Dan's brief affair had ended. They'd seen a family counselor at the time and they'd done everything right: full disclosure, individual as well as couples counseling, and a recommitment ceremony with their parish priest. Jillian said all the right words, too: "I've forgiven him. We've moved past it." But after a few sessions, a pattern became clear. Whenever Dan was late coming home, or vague about a work trip, Jillian's
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